Who is to blame for the problems in your life? While it may seem inside our minds that someone else is to blame for our misfortunes or heartaches, playing the blame game doesn’t really work. You may feel that perhaps your low self-esteem or poor self-image stems from living with an abusive parent, family, or even an abusive partner. This is a perfectly rational thought, right?
Think about this deeply for a moment. Is blaming others working for you in your life right now? Does it help you fix the pain of your low self-esteem or negative thoughts? Truly, your outer world is a reflection of the world within you. If you allow others to be responsible for your negative thoughts or painful feelings, you are giving them your power. You are essentially crushing your own power and personal growth and ultimately keeping yourself completely trapped in negative feelings or thought patterns.
I’m not saying you haven’t possibly been mistreated. And your feelings of being mistreated are very valid and are your feelings to have. But understand that in this world, the only person you can control is yourself. To make a lasting change in your life, you need to change yourself. Changing the people you surround yourself with in your life, changing your thoughts, changing your actions, and most importantly, changing your reactions to people or situations, puts the power back in your hands. Forgive those who may have done you wrong and deciding to truly love yourself is the only way to detach yourself from that pain.
Remember that forgiveness is not for the person who hurt you. Forgiveness is for you! It is about letting go and releasing those terrible feelings, thus freeing yourself totally and completely. Once you do this, you will no longer be stuck in that pain and feel the need to blame others for it. Take responsibility for your life and choose to live this moment happy and free from the past. This is the way to take back your personal power and truly heal your life.
If this is an area where you are having difficulty, please contact me and I can help you do so. Decide today that you are worth it!