A difficult fact of life is that relationships can break down. Most lesbians go through such an experience at least once and unfortunately, you have found yourself in this painful situation. Even though you’ve been dumped, you still care about your ex. Things may look bad, but there is still hope for your relationship if you take the right steps. Here are three critical things to do if you want your ex girlfriend back.
1. Keep your mouth shut. If there is to be any chance of reconciliation, you must watch your tongue and not speak ill of your ex-girlfriend to other people. The lesbian community can be small and intertwined. Realize that you never know who is friends with whom. Anything negative you say about your ex-lover has the potential to come back to her. Gossip spreads fast!
Reserve your emotional outlet only for your closest friends, people you can absolutely trust to keep your secrets private. With anyone else, be diplomatic and vague about the details of your breakup. Resist the urge to pour out your sadness and anger at anyone within a six-foot radius. Although your listeners may seem understanding, complaining about how terrible your ex is does not make you look very good either. Don’t say anything that could damage your lover’s reputation. Be nice to their friends if you run into them and don’t ask mutual friends to take sides in battle. Be classy and you will have a better chance of reconciling with your ex-girlfriend.
2. Avoid the places you are likely to go, temporarily. Depending on your circumstances, this can be difficult, especially if you liked going to clubs together or if you shared hobbies and activities. You might think that it is not fair to have to change your routines. But staying away from your ex as much as is practical serves several purposes.
If you’re feeling hurt and angry, seeing it could trigger a storm of emotions and lead you to do or say something you’ll regret. The last thing you want is to make a bad situation worse, right? Minimizing contact also gives your ex a chance to feel your absence and even start to miss you.
3. Make a plan to get your ex back. Although you may feel desperate right now, all is not lost. Many lesbians can reconcile after a separation. Just stay calm and think things through. Believe it or not, there are entire books written on the subject of getting your ex-lover back. Getting back with an ex is basically a matter of using the right psychological tools in the right order.
Most importantly, having a strategy will help clear your head and make you feel more positive about the future. And that will definitely put you on the right path towards a possible reconciliation with the woman you still care about.